Find Out How To Lessen Life’s “Doing” Trap

Do you sometimes feel that life is one big swirl of doing, doing and doing?

It is easy to feel like this when you have children, a partner, a home and a career. 

You feel like you are being torn into different parts of yourself that will never be put back together.

It feels almost impossible to have time for yourself so that you can feel like you are a person in your own right.

I know that I felt exactly like this when my daughter was little, and I had my accounting practice to run.  In fact, I nearly came unstuck because of the tension between all the roles that I was doing.

In hindsight, I wish I had have had the knowledge from my book Women As Leaders – The World Needs You and my Women’s Empowerment and Leadership Program back then for that younger me.  I know I would have been less stressed at least!!

Let’s address one of the tensions you are experiencing which I have named the parent-energy work conflict.

Neuroscientists are now studying what happens to a woman because of pregnancy and child birth and they are discovering that there are significant changes in a new mother’s brain.

The bonding hormone oxytocin connects us as humans and women experience a dramatic increase of this hormone during pregnancy, when the baby is born, as well as during child care.  Snuggling with your baby, which is so lovely, increases oxytocin levels significantly.

Biologically we are primed to ensure that our children not only survive but thrive.

It feels almost impossible to turn this compunction off and can lead to intense anxiousness.  It is why our children become our number one priority sometimes at the detriment to our own health and well-being.  I know that this is what happened to me.

Having tools to cope with the parent-energy work conflict are essential if you want career advancement around being a parent.

This will allow you to be less stressed and more contented and your family will have the benefit of a happier and more confident you.

Children mask their parents’ behaviour.  If you are happier and more contented, then you will discover a happier and more contented family.

Some simple ideas for you to consider are ensuring you have a support crew readily available consisting of an executive coach, work champion and/or mentor and a venting partner.

Also consider out-sourcing all the non-essential parenting and career tasks and relish the freedom of more “me” time.  Ask yourself – “Is it necessary that YOU clean your home?”

The parent-energy work conflict is addressed in my Women’s Empowerment and Leadership Programs.  These programs are being run regularly throughout 2018 with the first one happening 1st and 2nd February 2018.  CLICK HERE for more details.

Of course, if you don’t have children or plan not to have children, you might be wondering what’s in it for me to do these programs.

Being a leader requires the understanding of the operating paradigm for yourself and all the people in your team. In my opinion, the parent-energy work conflict is essential to be understood by any effective leader.

For the men reading this newsletter, I hope it has given some insight into the women around you especially if you are a leader with mother’s in your team.  I know there is a book entitled “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”.  Perhaps it isn’t that complicated. Perhaps we just need to understand each others biology. Food for thought!!!

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